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The Retreat – Part Two – Why Go?

A popular Zen saying tells us: “You should sit in meditation for 20 minutes a day, unless your too busy, then you should sit for an hour.”

In this episode I speak about the different levels of retreat. For the mind, body and soul.

By retreating from the world we can rest and recharge, gain clarity of mind, focus on whats important, develop a plan for the future and much else besides.

Please let me know if you intend to go on retreat this year, or if you have been on one recently.

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The Retreat – Part One – Brook Meadow Farm

!!NEW VLOG!!

The Retreat – Part One – Brook Meadow Farm.

In this episode I speak about the location of my retreat, it’s setting and facilities, and the experience you are sure to have by going to stay there.

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On Negativity

It isn’t easy to avoid being miserable and remain upbeat when the weather is cold and wet, and miserable! This is an impromptu episode on Negativity. If today is a miserable day for you, then you have to watch it. How to get warm and dry, and overcome the negativity!

Like and subscribe, and share how you like to keep warm and dry on wet and windy (miserable) days.

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Live Your Best Life

Very pleased with this new Vlog. In this episode I speak about living your best life, and what is required to have the best year to date. I also experiment with some new skills I have learnt in the editing process which includes images to better emphasise my points.

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Happy New Year : A summary of the Vlogs content.

This Vlog will focus on some ideas for how you can become the best version of you. The dream image you have of what you can become.

We must know what is required to achieve our goals, but also be able to foresee any obstacles that are likely to get in our way.

At the beginning of every New Year we have a choice to make, but this choice exists on the macro level each and every day. Do you want to keep on indulging in old habits, or to change your life for the better?

The step by step, or upwards ascent to success.

Vision – Goals – Strategy – Action – Success

The obstacles we are likely to encounter.

Discipline. Making the right choices.

How much do you want it?

Make today so awesome, that yesterday gets jealous.

Like and share if you found it helpful or think it could benefit others.

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Gaining Control

If you want something you will find a way, if you don’t, you will find an excuse. In overcoming any habit there is one important question for us to consider. This is the factor of how much we want to change our lives?

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Hello and welcome to Fragments of Fragments with me, Lewis Kirk.

This is a follow up to the last Vlog I did about Whos in Control? regarding our relationships to our smartphones. If you have not seen this, I would recommend that you go and watch that first, as it will give you better context when watching this episode.

Many of you have contacted me regarding habits that you would like to change. And specifically regarding the last Vlog some of you commented on how our relationships to our smart phones can be out of our control. This episode will be about re-gaining control over this relationship in particular, but will generally cover any habit that we wish to overcome.

In overcoming any habit there is one important question for us to consider. This is the factor of how much we want to change our lives? Do you desire a change in your behavior more than what you get in benefit from that behavior?  Why are you doing this?

We need to ask ourselves what is important to us. What do you we want in life? In the near and distant future. We might want to spend less time on our smartphones, to eat a more balanced and healthy diet, to overcome some unwanted habit. If this is really important to us, then we will overcome it with ease, but if not, then we are in for a struggle. By paying attention to our actions during the day, it will become very clear what is important for us. If we want to spend less time on our smart phones but still find ourselves regularly checking our social media feed, then it is clearly not that important to us. If we want to get into shape, but cant resist the offer of a cake or doughnut, then getting into shape cant be important to us.

If the desire for change is strong and powerful within us, nothing can get in our way. Compare this to a weak or unclear intention, and we will have a much harder time making progress. If you want something you will find a way, if you don’t, you will find an excuse.

We need to make conscious choices. What I mean by this is to know the reason behind the things we do. Regarding our phones. Wanting to research something on Wikipedia and making some notes is a very beneficial way of using this technology. Learning a language on the Duolingo app is a good use of a few spare minutes. But procrastinating over a project that we need to finish by scrolling through our Facebook news feed is not a good use of our time. We need to take control of our decisions and choices, and not just open our social media apps for the sake of it. Have control over how you spend your time. And if it is difficult, then work towards gaining control.

Set a time during the day for checking social media, be strict with that choice, there is no need to check in every hour hoping for a dopamine high. If that’s what your looking for take up skydiving or some other extreme sport.

To elaborate on this, speaking specifically about overcoming the time wasted on our phones here is an exercise you can try. You can put your phone down and not check it for 10 minutes right? At least I hope you can! How about 30 minutes? How about an hour? Can’t do an hour, OK then, try and build up to an hour, all the time remembering the reason you are doing this. This is very important as I mentioned earlier. If the reason is not clear and strong, it will be easy to fall back in to the old habit. If you know why you are doing this, then it will be easier to control yourself around your smartphone.

If you have any further questions that I did not cover here, don’t hesitate to get in touch and ask. I might not do another Vlog to answer, but I can answer in the comments or via a message if that’s better for you.

Please like and subscribe to the channel, and if you found this helpful then please share it with others who might also benefit. Thanks for watching.

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A Universal Religion


If only the entire world adopted a Universal Religion. One where we focus on the strengths of all the religions and aim to transcend the weaknesses that hold them back.

Investigating the religions of the world it is clear to see that everyone is worshipping the same principle.

If everyone were free to hold on to what they believe, what makes them happy and content. If everyone adopted this attitude there would be no hatred or religious fanaticism.

We could all coexist happily. Free from suffering.

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Connection is Key

We are wired as human beings to connect with the world around us. To connect with nature, to connect with others, and to connect with ourselves. 

It is in our nature to feel empathy and compassion for the pain and suffering of others. Nothing could be clearer at this time of great suffering across the globe. We see people suffering and in need, and subconsciously a thought arises: ‘something must be done!’

In great times of need, our love and compassion for our friends and families extends and reaches out to all sentient beings. 

If we could increase the time that our love for humanity would extend to every living being, taking it beyond natural disasters and into every waking moment. Think how much more light there would be in the world. 

Every moment there is a choice. To include or to exclude. To open or to close. To be selfless or to be selfish. Let’s make the right choice. All the time. 

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