In this new episode I discuss how we can be more productive with our time in the midst of our smartphones and social media. I also talk about Nomophobia, which is the fear of being away from our smartphones, and the dopamine and serotonin hit we receive from our social media through our smart phones.
Who is in control? You or your phone? Do you control your activity on your social media, or do your social media accounts control you?
A survey found that 3 out of 5 of us cant go more than an hour without checking our phones. Smart phone addiction is a real thing, Nomophobia, which literally means the fear of being away from your phone.
Who wears the trousers in your relationship? What I mean by this, is whether there is a space, a gap, between you receiving a notification on your smart phone, and the checking of that notification. Deeper than this. Do you control or limit your time spent on social media? Or have you, like most of us, been getting ready to go to bed when a WhatsApp group or Facebook thread gets really interesting and you keep telling yourself I should really go to sleep now, but it is several hours before that actually happens
We have all seen a scene like the featured image of the blog. Whether it be on a packed tube carriage where everyone is staring at their phones, or that table at a restaurant where there is no conversation as all present are engaged in whatever is happening on their smartphone screen.
Every minute spent unproductively on our phones is time spent missing out on real life experiences and interactions. When we are active in the world, we should be fully in the world. This is not possible if we have our device taking all of our attention away from what surrounds us.
What caused me to think about this in more depth is the grasp social media can have on a person. Since beginning this Vlog I have had more likes and comments to look at, as well as the YouTube and Blog analytics that show you how many views you have had, what has been viewed, where in the world the viewer was. etc etc. Now, it didn’t take me long to realise that this interest in all of this data could very well have a detrimental impact on my life, and so I needed to come up with a method of staying on top of the comments and analytics, without letting them get on top of me. Just like any drug, in the beginning it feels nice and can give you a little high, then before you know it, your addicted to that high and need it to feel balanced.
Feed-back that others like, admire and love us are central to our well being, and I know this all too clearly by starting this Vlog and needing the feedback and reassurance to indicate that I was doing OK. There have been several scientific studies that suggest our brains require the positive evaluation of others. The brain gets a hit of dopamine and serotonin everytime we recieve a like or comment on our social media. These are the chemicals linked to happiness. When our phones beep, this activates the same chemicals the give drug users their high.
Why do you think people are more comfortable on Facebook whilst on the tube, rather than looking around the carriage and trying to make friends? Because there is the element of rejection when trying to form relationships out in the real world. Someone could blank us, or give us that look, or tell us to go away. Its much safer on Facebook.
Evolution has built us to desire and work to secure positive social regard. Millions of people post to Facebook and Twitter every day, in the hopes that something of interest to them will be of interest to others as well. This is the very reason I am creating content for this Vlog, hoping that we might share a common interest and that it could be valuable for both of us.
Here are a few signs that your spending too much time on your smart phone:
- You look at your phone while your talking to someone.
- The first thing you do when you get somewhere is charge your phone.
- You fall asleep holding onto your phone.
- The first thing you do in the morning is check your phone.
- You feel anxious when your phone is not with you.
From everything said, I am doing my best to limit my time spent on my social media and checking the Vlogs analytical data. This is not to say I am succeeding, that hit of dopamine and serotonin can be very powerful. But the airplane mode on the phone is very helpful if you want to get productive, and I try and maintain the rule of not having my phone with me while I am with my children.
Please share on the various platforms anything that helps you to be in the world rather than lost in your iPhone screen, and if you think someone needs to hear this, pass it along to them, so they can benefit.
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